The art of forgiveness

Forgiveness is an art. It does not come naturally to one. You need to truly believe that you have let go of whatever that happened and forgiven the person. It is a process. And it is gradual.

It is said forgiveness frees you. It gives you that peace of mind. It lets you move on and most importantly it lets you face. But it is hard. It requires effort and sometimes it is your only option.

I don’t even know if I am a forgiving kind of a person. I cut people a lot of slack, because honestly as humans we are made to mess up. We will hurt people, we will be selfish, we will lie and we will hide. We will do it. But the question is how much of it can we control. And how much of it does not affect someone else.

I mess up. I become insensitive sometimes. I sometimes can’t stand emotional outburst (especially from men) and I ummm……. am selfish too sometimes. So if I can do it so can others and they deserved to cut that slack.

But then there is this other side where sometimes people need to be forgiven. Because what they did affected someone. What they did changed things. What they did was not just a simple lie or something like buying popcorn instead you soda because that’s what they wanted or not listening when you were crying or not caring sometimes. It was just something that you need to forgive in order to be yourself again. Just to go back to that world which seemed normal.

So forgiveness is an art. I can look at someone and smile. I can not even be angry. I can not even hurt. But that forgiveness does take its time. May be it needs to be earned. But I don't know how many people want to work on that.

(I mean I don't know if I would put a lot of time and effort in it)

Forgetting seems so much easier. Forgiveness takes too much time.

(How much I talk about time… sigh)