All this time, and I mean all my life, I have believed communication is the key to any problem. I have believed in talking things out, understanding the other side, explaining my side, coming to a solution, because after all there are always two sides to a story, and you won’t know the other side till you actually discuss it.
But now, after dealing with all sorts of people with all sorts of emotions and pre-conceived notions, I don’t believe communication is the solution to every problem. In fact, sometimes, actually, a lot of times, it just makes the situation worse.
I mean how many times can you discuss something and go over it again hoping that this time when you talk, things would be different? I am guessing about 10 times and then you’ll end up hitting your head against the wall. (That’s what I feel like doing after the 10th or so time).
So now I have a different take on the whole communication thing. Yes it is important, but only with few people, the ones that are open to criticism, the ones who can take some insensitivity from your side, the ones who truly care about you (this one also has some exceptions btw), the ones whose absence will certainly make life different. (I think I am having a hard time describing exactly what kind of people). But all the others, you can tell them once, but communication is pointless, it’s just a trigger to unwanted situations and emotional outbursts.
Basically, set back, relax, take time off, don’t go over the issues again and again, may be time, distance and some other factors will make things better. And if nothing works, then trust me, you are better off.
(How wise of me :) )
P.S: Some people never understand your side because they can’t see any other side from their own. They have a view of the world which is so subjective that every decision they see, is judged by what they would have done, instead of what could have been done. Those are the ones with whom, talking works the least. Just an FYI.
2 comments:
Very true! :)
:)
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