If you fell so hard for someone, then obviously there is something about him that makes him so special, something that made you fight for him, something that made it what it was. And if on top of that there was a strong friendship too, then you know he is not that bad after all, if he decided to be with some one else.
It hurts, it does hurt, obviously, there is hurt, but learn to be happy for him. I am not trying to sound selfless, or over believer, but if he meant so much, it is important to see him happy.
Easier said than done I know, but trust me if you can do that, you will be happy too. You don't need to talk to him or keep in touch, but you don't have to wish bad things either, because that will just undo everything you shared. People mess up, that's all about being human, and realizing that is important. Important so that you can let go, and move on.
Think like this, if he is happy, and he has own life, he will never need you again, and you will never fall back into it. You will not need to put an effort in staying away, because he is doing that for you, and on top of everything you don't need to worry about him because there is someone else to do that.
You might think, "Why would I worry if he did that to me," well because if you loved him, caring does not go away till you see someone else doing it and being sure he is ok.
So fellow girl friends, learn to be happy for him, because was that not the point initially seeing him happy made you happy? He has someone else, and you don't have to worry about something you fought for single handily, is that not a good thing?
4 comments:
hey geets
interesting post
just to give you a (slightly older :D ) guy's perspective on it
i've not doubt that this guy was 'someone special' at that time, but believe me there are many many other guys out there who you can have a special connection with, and you owe it to yourself to be with someone who also treats you and thinks of you as 'someone special' as much as you do them
i would spend more time on your own happiness and looking after yourself, don't worry so much about him being happy, he'll be fine
and having a bf or gf can be great and it's fine to want that but it's not so great to 'need' a bf/gf
i think it's always a good idea to have an active life outside your bf/gf and have other people in your life too
that really helps to give balance
I wrote this not because of me, but because of some girls I know who are really bitter.
They focus too much on being angry and stuff, so my point is let him be happy, and you be happy as well.
And about me, I really don't need anyone, I am actually very happy :) being single
And seriously, may be I am younger that's why I am saying this, but I think sometimes there is this one person who changes a lot in you. I know you can move on, and find someone else, but sometimes one person is always memorable no matter whether you see him/her ever again or not
ah ok
well, then i guess what i said applies to them rather than you! ;)
and yes i think you're right, sometimes a person (whether it's an ex, or someone else) can be really memorable to you for many reasons and you can really learn a lot from the time you spent with them
life is a learning experience :D
Thanks for the input though. I rant a lot here, and say stupid things, its good to have someone say something :)
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