Looks and talks do matter

I am not trying to be shallow here. Honestly I am not. But the truth of the matter is, it is very important to be pleasing to someone’s eyes. Beauty is very perceptive, but you still have to work on it.

Some people are blessed with glass shattering looks while others have to work on it. I think no matter what face you were born with, if you try and if you pay attention to yourself, you can be pleasing to someone or the other.

It’s not even about looking good for others, its about looking in the mirror and saying, “ok I am something.” Everything starts with the way you look. People approach you, listen to you, take you seriously, treat you as a joke with the way you look and then the way you talk.

(Yup, talk talks, important!!!!)

I took a communication class and my professor introduced to something called the “cute syndrome.” When people look pretty (not hot) and they talk in front of an audience, people will probably not take them seriously unless they work on their tone. Because they look cute. And cute is not taken seriously. So being pretty does not do the deal, not always.

On the other hand if you are in a room full of opposite sex, you need to look hot. Not revealing hot. But just hot. That will immediately give you their attention. And then you talk. Talk business. And talk about what you have to say. Please the eyes and then please the thoughts.

When you go out meet people and you are 30 pounds over weight you know your chances go down of being approached. No I am not being shallow.

( I have been overweight, I still am, so trust me I know what it is).

It is just human nature, even if you are the best talker, you need to please the eyes first. You know you will not approach someone who is not pleasing to your eyes, so why do you think its wrong if you are not being approached?

Once again you can be hottest girl/boy in the room, but what you say and how you say it and can just break or make the deal for you. How many times have you thought, “He/She is so hot, but I wish they didn’t open their mouth.” I am guessing about a dozen times.

(For me its more like 100 times… talks matter a lot to me.. sigh)

All in all its the walk and talk that matters. Always and pretty much always. The two can be balanced. And the best part is you can work on both of these. We are not god sent with perfection, but we can try to work on both.

(I think I need to work on my endings…. well the point has been conveyed)