The unhelpful comparison

You go through good relationships. You go through bad relationships. Some end mutually. Some end with you being hurt. Some end with the other person being hurt. Sometimes you don’t want it to be over. Sometime you know its over even before it over.

In all the above cases if there was love involved and you spent a good amount of time with the person, you are pretty much scarred for a while. In a way you did not even see coming.

You try to move on, and when you do you go from one person to other trying to feel something for them. But sigh, does not happen. There is always this one thing you can complain about.

And that my friend is the ‘comparison’ syndrome. You compare everything with you had and you loved. You want him to use the same sense of humor, you want him to be equally expressive (high or low), you want him to understand you as much, you want him to be just like what you had, and the worst part of it all, you didn’t even know it.

And this new person gets trapped in your comparison issues. You can never replace what you had with someone when it was true, you can never find the same qualities, because you are here to build new relationships and meet new personalities. And some feelings are just not replaceable.

But then this syndrome, this unhelpful comparison is so instilled that you just can’t help it. And you look and look and look some more till those memories fade away. And sometimes that does not happen too fast, time takes too much time.