Giving the power

When you give someone a lot of attention, you give them a sense of power over you which makes them do things they never think are wrong, or making you feel bad in a way.

Taking someone who is always around for granted is so easy. You know you don’t want anything more than friendship, but your actions over power your sensibility, and you do or say things that are hurtful.

It is so easy to tell your friend who is always around that it’s not you, it’s me. But somewhere inside, you know that’s not true. How many times you say that and you don’t mean it. You believe you do, but as soon as someone else comes along, may be then you understand, it was never you, it was just because you couldn’t feel that way for the friend, as you do for this someone.

So may times you know some where inside you that you are hurting that friend, but the boost that the attention gives you disables your rationality. It becomes inevitable to say things which sound nice but have no meaning behind them. The power stays with the attention getter, and that is never good.

I myself have done that. Given the power without realizing with that, I am being taken for granted. The only difference now, I realize it sooner than way later.

The question in my head though is how do we end up giving someone so much power over us? If not a lot, then even enough to get ourselves hurt when the person clearly doesn’t want anything more than just you boosting their ego, being around for them, and just filling a temporary void in their lives.

We do it so often, yet we never know where to end the cycle…