Looking at it from your eyes…not mine

I never believe what people say easily. I don’t take things on face value and a lot of times I evaluate what they say on the basis of my own perception about things.

Some days ago I was ranting to one of my guy friends (who is like my girl friend) and talking about how when I was told something, it upset me, because that was what I think was meant.

Before I go any further actually, I should talk about this guy friend who is like my girl friend. Most days he does not make sense. He is one of those guys who can define every situation in life in terms of sex. He never wants to talk about feelings or emotions especially with me, because he thinks I should be more worried about my career, family, money and other things. Most our conversations go like this:

Me: I am upset

He: Dude, don’t you have better things to worry about

Me: I miss so and so

He: Dude, really, let’s not do this right now

But some days ago I was at a weird low in front of him so he decided to listen to me. And this is how I conversation went…

Me: It was quite hurtful. I wish the fact that I am making same mistakes is not a consolation

Him: Answer this. Will someone else’s pain be a consolation to you?

Me: May be earlier. Not anymore.

Him: Is it necessary that person thinks the same way? May be it doesn’t even matter to that person what you are doing your life, leave alone that being a consolation. You are not doing as well according to you, but what if what you do is not a factor what so ever. Just because it was a factor in your life, you can’t see that person’s side from your eyes

Me: OMG! You make sense. In the past 6 months, this is the only thing you have said that makes sense.

Him: Well, I don’t do this often. Let’s watch something now.

So basically what I am trying to say is sometimes it is important to realize that just because there is a way you will react in a situation doesn’t mean someone else would do. I always assume the worst, and think that what was said was not entirely true, because people are polite (not me), and they say things which they really don’t believe in.

What I should do is believe that sometimes they do mean it, even if it’s hard to believe that they do. That will make you look at things from their eyes, even if it is a task to move past your own perception…

Phew….. I don’t even know if what I said made sense….