A word of advice

If I ever say that I have seen it all when it comes to men, then I would be lying. Wouldn’t I?

I am still in college (well for a month at least), and I am sure there is much more to come. But even after all that I feel like there is this similarity I have seen in the ones I have been involved with, and now somethings that are said (even if I am not the one involved), that make me not take them seriously.

One of my guy friends and I were having some sort of discussion and this is how it went:

He: You know, there is no right way to say NO to a girl

Me: What do you mean?

He: If you avoid her you are an ass, if you spend time, you are an ass

And I suddenly realized how right he was. So many guys when told, that one of their close female friends like them, get so confused that they do not how to deal with the situation without losing the friendship. They say/do things which they know they shouldn’t have, because they are suddenly trapped in a circle of unwanted events.

And then they try and get themselves out by saying how much the girl means to them as a friend, and how much they love her as a friend but nothing more. And I know for a fact they mean it when they say it. But what they don’t realize is no matter what they say to the girl, it won’t make her feel better.

Women don’t like to pursue or wait for the men, as men do for the girl they want. They read more into things then men do. They don’t care if you love them as a friend if you have done/said something that should have meant more. Because trust me, all this, “I love you as a friend” goes away once you start dating someone else. It truly does. So honestly guys, I know it’s a hard situation for you all, but don’t say, “I can’t afford to lose you as a friend",” because all that is bull crap. I know you mean every word when you say it, but you should also know that eventually, some time later, you yourself won’t believe in all that once (if) things go sour.

So guys I know it’s a difficult situation. And it sucks to deal with it. And full sympathies to you all. But think about that girl who was probably left heartbroken on top of losing you as a friend. When you probably, just lost a friend.